Your ex is probably still thinking about you. How could they stop? You’re the one that broke up with them, and it wasn’t exactly pretty. They must be desperate to go back to the person who made them so miserable. Especially now that you’ve both moved on and are happily dating other people. But they shouldn’t give you that impression. They need to know that while they were probably a mistake, there are other good guys out there too.
So here are some things you can do to make sure your ex-girlfriend knows it’s not worth getting back together (with someone else). You can do couple of things to forget your ex-girlfriend such you quit social media, don’t email-message-or-call, use hxdoll when you remember your intimate moment with her. However, let’s dive into this article in detail.
Don’t message her for a month.
Spending time with your ex can be amazing or soul-crushing. It’s up to you which version you enjoy more. If you decide to message your ex-girlfriend after a month, please don’t do it everyday or you’ll start lashing out at each other in an effort to get your attention. Wait until a week has gone by and then try again. This gives your ex a chance to process and forget about you. They don’t need to feel guilty for being happy with someone else.
Don’t call or email her for a week.
This is the final “don’t” of this list. If you call or email your ex every day after a week, they will probably begin to forget about you too. If she does too, it’s a great opportunity to call or email someone to talk to you off the phone or in-person. This method works for both text messaging and emails. You are essentially letting your ex-girlfriend know that she is not invited to call or email you anymore. This gives her a chance to cool off and process what she’s been through. If she wants to call you, set up a time and place where you two can talk. If you need to emails back and forth, make sure they are unread so you don’t waste your time reading them. This one is important, so make sure you understand why below.
Ditch the Black Dip
This one is actually a really nice way to get your ex to give you a second thought. If you haven’t dated in a while and your ex is in their 30s or 40s, they might not know how to react to seeing you in swimsuit. Even if they do, it’s kind of a bummer when they see you in that because they probably don’t wear bikinis outside of the pool. Luckily, this is super easy to do. All you have to do is wash your suit in the sink, throw it in the dryer for 24 hours and then ship it in a bag. If you’re not into that, you can always give it to a friend or even donate it to a local pool or beach clean-up. This is one of those “don’ts” that you can do and not feel bad about. Your ex will probably forget about you soon enough.
Take a break from social media.
Social media can be a really amazing resource for finding new friends and meeting new people. But sometimes you have to put the devices down and step back from the flow for a bit. This is especially important during your break up period so you can get your head straight and process things. Don’t share or post things that are making you unhappy or that make you want to explode. Even if the person you’re sharing things with doesn’t deserve to hear it, you don’t want to make yourself extra upset by adding to the situation. This is your time to decompress and calmly think things through. When you’re ready to go back to social media, you’ll be much less likely to be Ribbon-Cutting-worthy.
Don’t hug, kiss or cuddle with her for a week.
This one might sound harsh, but it’s really the only way to go when it comes to cuddling up with your ex. Hugging and cuddling are natural things to do when you’re together, and they can feel really nice after a lot of space has passed between you two. But as soon as you two are apart, you need to cut ties. There is no need to give your ex the exact cuddlingStory that you two used to share. Give them a warm hug from time to time, but cut all other cuddling down to size. After all, you both deserve better.
Send her a text message and set it to 72 hours.
This one is kind of a no-brainer, isn’t it? You both deserve a break, and it’s a good idea to give it to each other. Send a quick text message every so often and set the timer for 72 hours. This way, you don’t have to think too much about it and you have time to grieve or process whatever you need to before the timer turns the dial back. This one really is a no-brainer.
Don’t want to see/speak to her again? Final straw:
At some point, you’re going to have to say “I don’t want to see or speak to you anymore,” even if it’s just to say “this is how it is, let’s say our goodbyes, and then we can both move on.” This is the final “don’t” on this list. If you don’t say anything and just walk away, it’s probably going to sting less the second time around. Your ex-girlfriend will likely forget about you the moment she looks in the mirror, but the second time around, you’ll have given her the final “don’t” and she’ll be on the outs for good. This one is important, so make sure you understand why below.
Don’t fall for the same old skits and tricks your ex-girlfriend used on you in the past. Be honest with yourself and don’t fall for the “aww shucks, it was just a fling” line. If you’re seeing someone else, they probably don’t want to be with you anymore too. So don’t make excuses for your former flame. Own up to what you did and say “this is how it is, let’s say our goodbyes, and then we can both move on.”